100 Places to have Sex

Has your love life stalled? Are you looking to spice up your sex life? What about new positions, situations or places? If you and your partner are looking for something exciting check out this collection of ideas for places to have sex.

From romantic and sensual to sexy and sexually liberating, this list of places to have sex has something that will excite you and your partner.

If you're interested in even more sex places and tips, check out the 500 Love Making Tips download. You'll get suggestions for exciting places to have sex, tips to drive him wild, and secrets to make her crazy.

1. On a waterbed.
   
2. Inside an unknown rocky cave or limestone cave.
   
3. In the weight room at your gym.
   
4. In your not-yet-finished new build house.
   
5. On the hood of your car on a deserted gravel road.
   
6. On a pool table.
   
7. On top of the washer... while it's running.
   
8. On a soft rug in front of a fireplace.
   
9. On a secluded island beach.
   
10. In the backyard under the stars.
    
11. In the woods after it rains.
    
12. On a motorcycle.
    
13. In a public restroom.
    
14. In an airplane restroom -- join the mile high club!
    
15. On a train in the middle of the night.
    
16. In bed with silk or satin sheets.
17. In bed with rose petals all over.
18. On the beach at night.In your lover's childhood room while their parents are home.
19. Outside in the rain.
20. In a hot tub.
21. On the deck of a yacht during a full moon.
22. Under a rainbow.
23. On a trampoline.
24. On top of a hill.
25. In the middle of nowhere.
26. In the car during heavy traffic.
27. In the car on the side of a deserted road.
28. In a hotel.
29. In a state park.
30. On a waterbed.
31. On the loft in a barn full of hay.
32. In a field full of wildflowers.
33. On a rooftop.
34. In an open field at night.
35. By a waterfall with the water misting all around you.
36. Under a waterfall.
37. In your partner's bed.
38. In the garage.
39. On a jungle gym at night.
40. Outside during sunset.
41. In the car going through an automated car wash.
42. On your patio, balcony, or deck on a starry night.
43. In the mountains.
44. On an abandoned air field.
45. Under the full moon in wet grass.
46. On a porch swing.
47. In the living room during the day with the windows wide open.
48. On a blanket beside a lake.
49. In an elevator.
50. On the bathroom floor.
51. In your partner's parents room.
52. In a sauna.
53. In a very big bed.
54. On the top bunk of a bunk bed.
55. In a tent.At your office.
56. On your office desk.
57. On a boat deck with the waves gently rocking you.
58. In a tree house.
59. In a department store restroom.
60. In the restroom at a restaurant.
61. In a hot air balloon.
62. In a room filled with lit candles.
63. In a bathtub.
64. In the shower.
65. In a canoe on a river.
66. On a baseball diamond at night.
67. In a swimming pool.
68. At the bottom of the grand canyon.
69. In a beach house with a light breeze gusting outside.
70. Off a beaten trail in the woods.
71. In every room of your house.
72. On a chair.
73. On an air mattress.
74. On your kitchen table.
75. In a screened in porch in the middle of a thunderstorm.
76. On a hotel balcony, covered with a fuzzy blanket.
77. In a sleeping bag under the stars.
78. On a paddle boat on a lake.
79. In the bed of a truck on a hot summer night.
80. In the ocean... ride the waves.
81. In a room filled with balloons.
82. In front of a video camera.
83. In an abandoned barn on the hay wearing nothing but cowboy boots and a cowboy hat.
84. On an old sheet with chocolate body frosting.
85. On a bed surrounded by pillows.
86. At a bed and breakfast.
87. On an amusement park ride... tunnel of love, in the dark?
88. In the back of a limo.
89. Next to a campfire.
90. On a golf course.
91. In the car at a drive-in movie.
92. On really plush carpet.
93. In your house during a thunderstorm, with a window open and rain misting in.
94. On a picnic table.
95. In a hammock.
96. On horseback.
97. While scuba-diving.
98. On a ferris wheel when you're stuck at the top.
99. At a rest area.
100. In a corn field.
     

Should Women Fake It?

As soon as Chelsea walked in, she plopped down on the couch and announced, "I am so frustrated."

"Hello Chelsea," I said.

Ignoring my greeting altogether, she continued, "No really, Coach, I am."

A few months earlier, Chelsea, a successful, attractive and very fit thirty-something lawyer, had been involved in a serious quest for a good, long-term relationship. She was in my office explaining how hard it had been to find a man of similar goals and values given her busy lifestyle. I had encouraged her to try online dating. I pointed out that it would be an effective method of connecting with a large number of men that fit her criteria, in the shortest amount of time, with minimal effort.

"Chelsea, please explain," I replied, taking to her cue to skip the formalities and get right to the point.

"I really did it," she continued, "I changed my pattern, followed your steps, went online and approached my search with a new set of guidelines. I can tell you, it worked! I found the right guy."

"And?"

"Well, Ben is a wonderful man. He's everything I could have hoped for. We have fun together and can agree on just about everything. He's already my best friend. I even waited this time and didn't rush into sex."

She hesitated. I waited for her to continue.

"That's where the problem comes up, Coach. I don't know what to do. Like I said, I'm frustrated...the sex is not so good. It's terrible because everything else about our relationship is perfect. I can truly see us building a happy life together." Then, after a pensive pause, "I'm thinking maybe I should just fake it. The sex should get better, right? Isn't it ok to fake it for now?"

Chelsea is one of countless women who resort to "faking it" to fool their partners into believing they enjoy lovemaking when they actually do not. Why do so many women feel they have to pretend to enjoy sex instead of actually being able to enjoy it?

Some women simply don't have orgasms and they feel insecure about it. This is usually the result of growing up with a feeling of shame and guilt about sexuality. From a very young age, girls are sent pretty clear messages that discourage them from expressing and/or fully exploring this aspect of themselves. Consequently, many women have to learn that it is good to get in touch with their bodies on an intimate level and learn how to be turned on. Only then can true sexual enjoyment be experienced.

Men contribute to this problem with their own insecurity and lack of a basic understanding of how women function sexually. Since so many men measure their very degree of "maleness" by their sexual prowess, it has become well established that giving a woman an orgasm is a defining element in what we call manhood. The problem is that when a woman cares enough about a man to become intimate with him, she usually cares enough about his ego to feel incredible pressure to make him believe she thoroughly enjoys sex with him. Some woman experiencing the need to please a man's ego report faking orgasms "just to end the incessant pounding."

Men should understand that every sexual encounter will not lead to her having an orgasm, and that it is ok. Not having an orgasm does not mean she did not find the experience pleasurable. Relieving her of this pressure will allow her to become more relaxed and more receptive, thus leading to more orgasms!

I know most men would never admit it publicly, but many could benefit from learning more about how to please women. It is probably a good idea to start by letting go of the notion that the only way a woman can be stimulated to a climax is by way of intercourse. In fact, only about 30% of women can experience orgasm with intercourse alone. That leaves a staggering majority of women who require other forms of stimulation.

I could go on in great detail about this particular issue because it is truly at the heart of so many of these problems. Chelsea's problems were rooted elsewhere.

Based on her own accounts, Chelsea placed too heavy an importance on creating the "perfect" relationship. She went on and on about what a perfect match she and Ben were. By wanting something so much can create fear and anxiety not allowing you to relax. Nonetheless, Chelsea's attention became so focused on how perfect their lovemaking should be, that her own natural ability to enjoy the exquisite pleasures of intimacy was severely hampered. To Chelsea, any problem that could taint this otherwise perfect relationship had to be squelched by a quick solution: Fake orgasms. Problem solved. Forgetting that a long-term relationship needs to be built on a solid foundation.

In his 1996 book, Contemporary Interpersonal Theory and Research, Donald Kiesler provided us with a behavior concordance model which explains the Interpersonal Reflex Principle. This basically states that much of our interpersonal behavior is designed to elicit predictable responses from those with whom we interact. These actions put into motion a cycle where one's behavior is constantly confirming, recognizing, validating and influencing the behavior of others. Sounds complicated but it is not. In essence we are training people what we like and don't like.

A dog, for example, repeats good behavior rewarded. However, if you reward a dog for unwanted behavior like begging at the table, the dog will repeat that behavior and always beg. To fake an orgasm is to confirm to your partner that what they were doing was good. This creates a positive feeling in your partner and they will do more of the same. Unlike the dog, training your partner to perform this trick will not leave you begging for more.

Trying to break the cycle will confuse your partner creating doubt. Your partner will lose confidence and never know when to trust you, is he pleasing you or not? When this happens sex will only get worse and the relationship strained.

"To answer the question should women fake it? No! Never fake it."

Problems, as much as we would like them to, do not just go away. The longer you go without confronting and handling them, the bigger they become. Sexual dissatisfaction is one of the leading causes of couples splitting up. The number one reason for sexual dissatisfaction is lack of communication. Forgoing communication and opting to simply fake it will only widen the gap between you two and ultimately ruin the relationship.

It is vital that you develop a level of communication with your partner that allows for frank and honest about sex talk. But, how do you tell your partner what turns you on? First set the ground rules between yourselves that sex talk is healthy, fun and in no way to be taken in an offensive manner, then:

Talk during sex. Don't be afraid of hurting your partner's ego by taking the time to teach them what brings you the most pleasure. Men in particular are very eager and happy students in this area. Just relax. It is ok to ask, "Do you like this?" or "How does this feel?" By all means, if you are asked such questions, be honest with your answers: "Yes, that feels good." or, "I liked it when you did this instead" and, "It really turns me on when you do this." Never ask after sex, "Was it good?" I can tell you that no one likes to be asked this question. File it under the same category as "Do I look fat in this?"

Talk about sex when you are not having sex. Ask questions and keep learning more about each other. Tell each other your fantasies and be willing to explore them, within reason. Opening and maintaining these communication lines will make you both more comfortable about the subject. Talking can also serve to build excitement as prolonged foreplay.

Buy books and explore together. Here is another peculiar aspect. We want sex, think about sex and are bombarded with it all over television, movies and advertisements. Oddly, very few of us study anything about it. A man will invest an exorbitant amount of time learning the parts of an engine or memorizing sports stats, but spends zero time learning about the female orgasm. Both women and men should take every opportunity to become students of sex together. Not only is it very sexy to learn together, you will both benefit from it greatly in the long run.

If you are in a relationship, starting a new one, or looking to get into one, learn that ultimately communication is the key to building a healthy and enjoyable sex life together. Let us do away with this notion that it is somehow wrong or shameful to talk openly about sex or that you can offend each other. I find it interesting that couples can be intimate with each other, yet feel uncomfortable discussing the intimacy. So, talk, learn, teach and, most importantly, have fun.

Can you have multiple orgasms?

Being Multi-orgasmic, is it a fallacy, here are some of the details.

Definition of multiple orgasms: experiencing orgasms within half a minute to a minute apart, which is quite close together. Each orgasm in a multiple session doesn't have to be earth shattering, it can be waves of pleasure, or even tension releases, we all experience orgasms differently and at different intensities, so multiple orgasms also vary with each individual.

Women
Fact: Women are more multi-orgasmic than men because they don't have to go through as long a refractory period as men. And when they do orgasm they remain on a plateau stage, which means they stay aroused even after an orgasm. Once a woman experiences an orgasm, she is likely to be able to achieve another if she keeps stimulating her genitals after, though your clitoris may be too sensitive, use other indirect stimulation on your vagina, labia, anus or breasts/nipples.

During intercourse the best position to use is female dominant as she has full control over how quickly and deeply she is penetrated and how much friction she feels against her clitoris. Most women that experience multiple orgasms are usually in their late 20's and early 30's, usually as they become more aware of what their bodies like but that doesn't mean it can be experienced if you are outside this age range. There are many women in their 40’s that achieve multiple orgasms.

How to be multi-orgasmic?
Masturbation is the absolute best way for anyone, to learn about their bodies and what they like sexually. So, when you masturbate, stimulate yourself to the verge of orgasm, then pause, hold back, wait and continue in a slower more relaxed pace. Repeat the whole process, until you absolutely can't hold off any longer, then allow yourself to orgasm.

As you start to calm down then stimulate your vagina, and the area around the clitoris until you feel the waves building up, then move more directly to your clitoris. Use your fingers or a small vibrator such as the "fingertron" for more tips about masturbation and vibrators see the two articles on these subjects.

Why Are Men Attracted To Boobs?!

Yes, they can be annoying, can't they? ... No, not your boobs, the men who constantly look at 'em.

Perhaps we are going to be telling you something you already know?

Perhaps you just don't care, and the only reason you're here is because you're bored out of your skull?

Well, now that you're here....

It really isn't all that hard to figure out why men are fascinated with your breasts. But some men, oh boy, they act like such children. it's like they have never seen 'em before.

Which brings us to the first reason why men love your boobs so much....

Researchers in the area of sexual health says that it goes back to when men were babies breastfeeding.

It seems like a no brainer, huh? But what about you ladies? ... You've breastfeed also. You aren't acting like a child with a new toy. You're not oggling at other women's breasts when you are waling down the street.

You aren't...right????

So, we're not really sure about this one. But, what the heck, we'll put it in anyway. We're bored.

Another reason, which makes more sense, is that men exaggerate over it. The buddies always talk about it. The co-workers always talk about it... It gets engrained into their brain after so much of this. Add their hormones to it (and you know how strong a man's hormones are), and he's got himself one hell of a powerful habit that is harder to lick (excuse the pun) than smoking!

Many men don't see boobs every day, so, add that to the silly exaggeration that they do.

Then you have commercialism. Now you know how so many businesses use sex to sell.

You put all this together, and there you have it...men acting like such idiots.

Hey, at least it feels good for you when they suck on your breasts.

It’s true, people who are married or in long term relationships continually report higher levels of sexual satisfaction than people who are single or dating.

The old belief that committing yourself to one person dooms you to a life of sexual monotony is wrong.

Rather than placing limits on your sexuality, the emotional environment created by long term relationships (LTRs) actually fosters a more varied, creative, and explorative sex life.

3 Reasons Why Sex is Better in a LTR

1. Greater Sexual Frequency

The most obvious reason why sex is potentially better in a committed relationship is the general availability of a sex partner. Unlike the dating phase, most people in LTRs end up living together, which means sharing their nightly beds as well as their daily lives. This closeness often gives rise to more opportunities for sexual contact.

Instead of having to make a date to get together, and then trying to seduce your date into your bed, he or she is already there!

To counter this point some argue that sex happens most frequently in the beginning stages of a relationship, so “serial daters” have more sex than those in LTRs. But this isn’t actually true.

On average married couples have sex once or twice a week, which may not seem like very much to someone who is in a “hot” new relationship and having sex three times a day. But remember, married couples have sex once or twice a week every week, all year long, for years!

And some LTR couples have much more sex than that. Of course the frequency of sex also depends on lifestyle changes such as children, stress levels, etc. But even after all of these things are accounted for, the average person in an LTR still has more sex in a given year than the average single person.

2. Easier Communication Means More Satisfying Sex

Couples who have lovingly and willingly committed themselves to each other share an emotional bond that is deepened by constant communication. They talk openly about everything - including their sexual likes and dislikes.

Once people are at the point in their relationships where they feel secure with their partners (knowing that ‘saying the wrong thing‘ won‘t jeopardize the relationship itself), they are much more willing to be upfront about what pleases them - and what doesn’t.

For example, it’s a lot easier to tell someone, “You know, I really don’t like it when you squeeze my thighs so hard during oral sex. It’s too distracting…” when you’ve been with them for a long time than when you’ve just started having sex together.

Said to someone in a stable relationship, the above admission will probably be received in a “Good to know, thanks for telling me” kind of way. But said to someone in the early stages of a relationship, the admission could be received offensively because the underlying emotional foundations of security that are needed to support sexual technique criticisms just aren’t there yet.

The open and consequence-free conversations that characterize LTRs usually lead to a very intimate understanding of what both partners sexually enjoy, making each sexual episode an opportunity for improvement.

3. Trust Allows for Experimentation

Once all the talking is over, it’s much easier to put those communicated desires into action if both partners trust each other completely. Most sexual experimentation - from trying new positions to living out one’s wildest fetish fantasies - happen inside of LTRs.

Yes, there are instances when one partner refuses to do or try something the other partner would like, but usually couples are able to find compromises or alternatives. And once an activity is found that thrills them both, they can continue exploring it, and all its variations, to the fullest.

So the next time someone tries to convince you that marriage or commitment will ruin your sex life, remember all the reasons why this simply isn’t true. Healthy relationships are the best places to develop, explore, and deepen your own understanding of all the wonderful emotional and physical experiences sexuality has to offer.

10yo girl ‘couldn’t have agreed’ to sex

Queensland Attorney-General Kerry Shine says a 10-year-old girl raped by nine males in the Indigenous Cape York community of Aurukun could not have legally consented to sex.

Last month nine males who carried out the gang rape escaped being sent to jail.

Six juveniles who pleaded guilty to the rape were placed on 12 months probation with no conviction recorded, and three older men received suspended six-month jail sentences.

Today’s The Australian newspaper has reported that in handing down sentences, Cairns-based District Court Judge Sarah Bradley said the girl “probably agreed” to have sex with all nine.

Mr Shine is meeting the state’s Director of Public Prosecutions (DPP) this morning to discuss what he describes as the “extremely lenient” sentences.

“Under Queensland law a child under 12 cannot give consent to sexual intercourse,” he said.

“I wouldn’t have thought that was a compelling or relevant issue to be taken into account, but that’s an issue for the judge.”

He says even though the appeal period has expired, he will be discussing an extension of that time with the DPP.

“The offenders have been sentenced and the normal appeal period has expired. Under Queensland law, however, we can apply for an extension of time to appeal,” he said.

“That is a matter, obviously, that I’m raising with the Director of Public Prosecutions this morning.”

Queensland Opposition justice spokesman and Liberal leader Mark McArdle has called for an investigation into the sentencing procedure and why the prosecution did not seek a jail term.

“It must be appealed and I’ll be pushing hard for tough, hard penalties but more importantly I want to understand very clearly the judges comments and the context in which they’re reported, because I’m very concerned about those comments,” he said.